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Anama Gómez
May 24, 2024 

Why do we sometimes feel like we have to suffer to succeed? Inspired by the series "Bebé Reno," I've delved into this question and want to share my thoughts with you. Dunn compulsively repeats traumatic experiences: violations, harassment, and abuse. This cycle of suffering reveals a profound human need for validation. "Every word I believed... was what I had always wanted to hear... 'I believe in you,' so I did everything he asked," says Dunn, reflecting how the pursuit of recognition can lead to extremes of self-destruction.

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The Paradox of Self-Esteem Gadd himself, through his character, shows how self-rejection can become a driving force for creativity and success. "I loved hating myself more than loving myself," he says, exposing an internal dynamic where suffering is transformed into art. This creative process is a way of making sense of his trauma, turning it into a tangible and meaningful manifestation.

The Need to Understand and Not Judge

In our daily lives, we all face moments that deeply mark us. These moments can bring out the worst in us, our "shadow." It's crucial to understand and accept that these behaviors are not simply character flaws, but responses to deep traumas and wounds. Art, as Gadd shows, can be a powerful tool for processing and overcoming these traumas.

Art as Therapy Sigmund Freud, in a 1907 lecture, posited that the child, through play, behaves like a true artist, reorganizing the elements of their real world. Similarly, Gadd uses art to reorganize his internal world, satisfying infantile and sometimes twisted desires in search of a correction for his unsatisfactory reality.

Reflection: Why does Donny Dunn need to suffer so much to succeed? Because his art is a way of processing and transcending his pain. Instead of seeking superficial calm, the protagonist chooses to confront his suffering, transforming it into a work of art that not only tells his story but also resonates with universal human experiences.


As spectators and human beings, it's essential that we don't judge those trapped in their cycles of suffering. 

Instead, we must strive to understand their struggles and recognize the shared humanity in their pain and search for meaning. Ultimately, "baby reindeer" reminds us that art can be a powerful path to healing and finding purpose, even in the midst of the deepest suffering.

What do you think?

Anama Gómez 🌹